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by Nat Brown
One of the "aha! moments" of my life took
place
years ago when I took
my ski team over to the house of one of the skiers for a pool party.
The boy’s parents were
Norwegians, and the pool had a sauna next to it. The Norwegian boy set
an example of taking
his sauna nude – nothing new to me even then – but afterwards led the
team – all boys - out
to the pool to swim naked. I joined in, but after a while I started to
feel tired, so I sat at the
edge of the pool with my feet in the water and watched the guys. After
a few minutes the Norwegian boy’s
mother came out to the pool area and sat down beside me and began to
talk. I was a little
disconcerted at first, but soon realized that this was normal for her,
and so why should it worry
me? We talked for several minutes, and I forget whether she left or I
did – but
afterwards
I was struck by the complete naturalness of the moment. It has stuck in
my mind ever since
as one of those shining moments when something which afterwards seems
so obvious, bursts into
light: why do we bother to wear clothes in some situations? I will
never forget how
free I felt after talking to John’s mother, as if a load had slipped
off my back.
This last fall we took a cruise
in the Adriatic,
along the northern
coast of Croatia. Speedos were the uniform much of the time, and the
one girl on the boat was often
topless, and even swam ashore to sunbathe in the nude. We showered
naked on the deck of the
boat, and for me, it was always disappointing to have to put trunks on
again – so close
to living simply and naturally! Other boats would put into the
out-of-the way arbors we
visited, their whole crew – a family – nude, and one family rowed
ashore nude and set off to explore
the beach and some caves – nude. I was so envious: if only I could be
so nonchalant and
natural. What a gift to the kids, to grow up without being ashamed of
their bodies! This simplicity
and total naturalness is the first element of true freedom that I find
in naturism.
Later, after the cruise, we spent a week at
Koversada, one of the world’s
largest nudist resorts, with some 300 acres and a capacity of 3,000+
guests. This was the first
time I had ever been consistently nude outdoors and in a social
setting. We came away
feeling
that we had established a new relationship with our bodies, a much more
natural
and accepting one. It was a feeling of harmony and rightness – one that
I want to bring into my
life much more.
Think of it, why hide our bodies? Our bodies
are
the real us, as much
as our minds and opinions. If not more so: so many of our attitudes are
second-hand,
culturally inherited ones, and as such, often unexamined and useless or
even harmful. In naturism
on the other hand, there is a naturalness and honesty that I want to
make part of my life.
Recently,
when I mentioned naturism to a friend, he said that he too, would like
to experience
that kind of freedom, and this has lead me to try to formulate what
naturism/nudism means for me.
(Let me define some terms: to
me, "nudism" means
doing things nude;
"naturism" means nudism, plus a philosophy of relating more closely to
the environment and to
nature. The terms are usually used interchangeably, but I like to make
the distinction).
I’ve been thinking a lot about what kind of
freedom naturism represents,
and why it means so much to me. Here’s an attempt at working out an
answer.
I want to live as well as I can, and as
deeply. In
Thoreau’s words,
I want to "suck the marrow out of life," and I want to get rid of the
excess baggage that keeps
me from doing this as fully as I can. To a large extent, I am finding
that one very good path toward
this fuller life is naturism. I want to work out a way to live as much
as possible like this.
It seems to me that one secret of a
successful
life is to work toward
freedom. "The truth will set you free." Only truth, rigorously pursued,
will bring true freedom,
and by freedom I mean most truly being as a fully realized creation.
Being less than fully
realized
is the opposite of freedom – we are, in one sense, "born to be free."
What part of that freedom does
naturism lead
to?
Freedom from useless societal restraints. Not
all
societal restraints
are a bad thing, but clothes-compulsion is one of the more useless
ones, and many societies
have had very different ideas as to what comprises modesty: toplessness
is accepted in many
"primitive" societies. Nudity was common and accepted, even required in
some circumstances
in Greece and Egypt. People who live in hot climates have always had a
very relaxed attitude
towards nudity, even in modern times. Other societies have defined
"nudity" in very different
ways: in Japan the back of the neck is extremely sexy, and when my
grandfather was young, a
woman’s
ankles were way out there. To us today, athis seems very strange. It is
learned
behavior,
not necessary behavior, and thus not free. Going naked simply feels
like a huge burden off
your back in terms of expectations and taboos – which is good for your
psychological health.
It’s also more
comfortable!
I remember the first time I ever experienced
this
kind of freedom: I
was in college, and the group of people I had gone through high-school
with used to have
parties
over at a friend’s "farm" on Hood Canal. Late one morning a friend of
mine and I wandered
down to the beach and decided to go for a swim. Having no swimming
trunks and no one
being in the area, we naturally went skinny dipping. Presently one of
the girls in the group
came down to the beach and sat down to watch us swim. When we were done
swimming, Bart, my
friend, simply walked out of the water and up to the girl and started
talking, so
I followed. We must have stood there talking for ten minutes or so –
naked all the time. It
was elating! Before, I never knew I could do such a thing. Afterwards,
it simply felt to natural
and so free of any restraints. This marked my first realization of what
a natural and health-giving
thing social nudity could be.
But I think it goes deeper,
and into much
healthier reasons. For my
part, I’m trying to get more real as I get older, to get rid of
illusions, even ones about myself.
Clothes are illusions: they make you look different than you are, feel
different, put up fronts.
They can cover up all sorts of things, and while clothes are obviously
needed at times (cold weather,
frying bacon… ) and fun at others (I love to get all dressed up in when
I’m in a city such
as London) they present something that is not real, in the sense of
"natural". What clothes
allow is an "outwards pretension." They are, in short, status symbols
("I’ve got the latest
Nikes, so I am a cooler person…" ).
But I think the inner pretension is worse and
more
dangerous: clothes
let us pretend to ourselves that we are other than we are. They allow
us to feel we are important,
or wise, or athletic, etc. Illusions are not a good thing to build a
self-image on. Reality, on
the other hand, is a rock that will carry a lot of weight and weather
well. Clothes alienate us from
ourselves: you are a body. Naked, you are you. It is very healthy to
recognize yourself for what
you are, and be the real you. It is more honest, and because it is more
honest, it is more
healthy.
This is the body God gave me. It seems silly to hide it. Sillier still
for anyone who enjoys
physical sports.
Largely because of this honesty, people who
are
naked in social settings
are just plain more friendly, less pretentious. I am not alone in
finding people at
naturist
resorts to be more friendly and open, and far less given to the
pretenses of social orders. It
is much easier to make friends among naturists, because you
inter-relate more honestly and openly
in the absence of the artificial barriers that clothes can be.
Clothes alienate us from
nature. It is truly
wonderful to feel sun and
wind and water all over our bodies, and in places where we have never
experienced the natural
sensations
of feeling the air and the sun. Who needs to sit around in wet trunks?
I remember my first
time at a naturist resort. I was walking on a woodland path and it
suddenly struck me
that "I’m out doors, in nature, NAKED!" It is hard to put into words
how wonderful and free
a sensation this was, and how absolutely right it felt. We are, in
modern society, far too cut
off from nature: we are surrounded by concrete, buildings, clothes, and
artificial climates
and smells. We need contact with nature and reality. This is why so
many people go out into the
mountains of go sailing of even simply walking in the part. It is
healthy and in touch with the
real and the natural – for no matter how we separate ourselves from
nature, we are, in fact, part
of it. Growing awareness of the dangers of pollution underline this. In
being naked out doors you
are part of nature again, and in ways that it is impossible to be when
you are clothed. Being
naked in nature is almost, for me, an act of worship; it is certainly a
very joyous one.
Finally, there is beauty: the
human body is,
quite
simply, beautiful.
To be ashamed of this beauty seems to me to be a very great sin, to
hide it a denial of a wonderful
gift as ungrateful as not taking care of it.
If I could, I’d live nude. I try to, within
practical restrictions.
And I try not to embarrass others. It takes some doing to get rid of
shame issues, but I think it can
be done. It’s more useless baggage I’d like to get rid of. Living naked
strikes me has being
honest,
natural, even honorable. I intend to work on it.
I want to make a life where I don’t take clothes
off when I can, but
where I put clothes on when I have to.
2001
Note: All photos on this page are from Croatia one of the most body
accepting countries in the world.
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